--- product_id: 190068471 title: "It's Not You, It's Him: The Zero-Tolerance Approach to Dating" brand: "georgia witkin" price: "€ 9.68" currency: EUR in_stock: true reviews_count: 5 url: https://www.desertcart.pt/products/190068471-its-not-you-its-him-the-zero-tolerance-approach-to store_origin: PT region: Portugal --- # It's Not You, It's Him: The Zero-Tolerance Approach to Dating **Brand:** georgia witkin **Price:** € 9.68 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** It's Not You, It's Him: The Zero-Tolerance Approach to Dating by georgia witkin - **How much does it cost?** € 9.68 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.pt](https://www.desertcart.pt/products/190068471-its-not-you-its-him-the-zero-tolerance-approach-to) ## Best For - georgia witkin enthusiasts ## Why This Product - Trusted georgia witkin brand quality - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description Full description not available ## Images ![It's Not You, It's Him: The Zero-Tolerance Approach to Dating - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/410eLLajS3L.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Short, life changing book *by S***R on Reviewed in the United States on January 16, 2019* Originally found this at the library years ago, read it, loved it, changed my life after and abusive relationship. Was excited to find it here for my high school daughter who is just beginning her dating life.Helped me know my worth, my voice & my how to ask for what I deserve. ### ⭐ Advice contradicts title of book *by M***T on Reviewed in the United States on February 27, 2016* Contradictory advice with unsubstantiated claims. Read Get the Guy, instead. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Subtitle: Get a Dog, It's Less Aggravation *by S***E on Reviewed in the United States on March 3, 2011* She's right. The title says the whole thing. Unfortunately, this isn't going to get you a man. This may or may not be a bad thing.Look -- and I say this as a veteran of marriage and short and long-term relationships, also as a mother whose view of taking care of nominal adults is now decidedly jaundiced -- men, on the whole, are not made so well and make themselves crazier than women do. You know how sperm behave? All that crazy racing around for one thing, anything for the win, and then they disintegrate if they don't make it? That's men. And I don't care what kind of nice grad-school feminist line they may talk; they still have trouble with the proposition that we're people too. So when they finally get around to noticing us, what they want is still a sexpot who'll be nice. Nice nice nice. A nice, sweet, ego-reflating, wound-binding, sexy sweetheart nurse who'll smooth the way, take care of all unpleasant chores, etc. Also you should not compete with him and make him feel bad, and by "compete" I mean "breathe". Because it's all a competition for the guys, no matter how tofu-eating your man is. You know that line "He who dies with the most toys wins"? They mean it. And if they don't mean it at 25, they find that at 40, as the testosterone ebbs, it's sprouted within anyway. Along with a real yen for kink, because they just don't get it up like they used to and they're dying to feel it like they did. So -- where they were once just endlessly grateful to get laid -- they now expect you to do all kinds of complicated gadgets-and-fantasies sex with orifices you didn't even know existed, and if you're not thrilled by this they save face by deciding you're a prude (as opposed to recognizing that you're having the best sex of your life because you're female and you've hit middle age, and you don't need the desperationware).If you love being a sweetie-pie, if taking care of your man and peace at home is your main thing, if you have no major desires beyond a loving home, you're in. You've got it. Be yourself, some man will spot and win you, and you should go take care of that man and help him stick electrodes on his balls or whatever and be happy.If want a relationship with another grownup who doesn't require that kind of constant care and coaxing, who doesn't require hero treatment for doing the kind of mundane and necessary things women do all the freaking time...you know what, these are few and far between, among men. So yes, know that it's not you, it's him. Also know that you may well wait a long, long time before you meet a fella you would actually want to be with, who appreciates that caregiving and childrearing are serious work, who does his share of the work without being managed, who doesn't expect you to pull him out of his moods all the time, who won't fall into sulks because you're happy/successful/orgasmic/whatever, and who doesn't blame you for his own problems.The thing is, in the end, you have to feel for them. I don't understand the success craziness, but it hits them awfully hard. They get front-loaded with king-of-the-world hormones, and then in midlife it all seeps away, and nothing is like it used to be, and they're worried. I mean it's all in Arthur Miller, but they have to live it, and they can't even pretend we need them desperately in order to live, like the guys could in Miller's day. It seems to be a visceral thing, too, it doesn't matter how bright or sensible they are or anything. So it's very tough. Still, in the end, if you're not so much into taking care of other grownups, you might consider getting a dog for while you wait. And a nice vibrator. And this book, which will remind you that it is indeed him, not you. --- ## Why Shop on Desertcart? - 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016 - 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories - 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price - 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members) - 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection - ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews **Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.pt/products/190068471-its-not-you-its-him-the-zero-tolerance-approach-to](https://www.desertcart.pt/products/190068471-its-not-you-its-him-the-zero-tolerance-approach-to) --- *Product available on Desertcart Portugal* *Store origin: PT* *Last updated: 2026-05-16*