--- product_id: 6993944 title: "- Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It" price: "€ 37.79" currency: EUR in_stock: true reviews_count: 13 url: https://www.desertcart.pt/products/6993944-insecure-in-love-how-anxious-attachment-can-make-you-feel store_origin: PT region: Portugal --- # - Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It **Price:** € 37.79 **Availability:** ✅ In Stock ## Quick Answers - **What is this?** - Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It - **How much does it cost?** € 37.79 with free shipping - **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship - **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.pt](https://www.desertcart.pt/products/6993944-insecure-in-love-how-anxious-attachment-can-make-you-feel) ## Best For - Customers looking for quality international products ## Why This Product - Free international shipping included - Worldwide delivery with tracking - 15-day hassle-free returns ## Description Do you struggle with anxious attachment in relationships? If you constantly worry about your partner pulling away, feel jealous or insecure, or fear abandonment in romantic relationships, you may have an anxious attachment style. Rooted in early attachment experiences, attachment anxiety can leave you overthinking texts, seeking reassurance, or feeling overwhelmed by relationship uncertainty. In Insecure in Love , you’ll learn how to overcome anxious attachment using compassionate self-awareness―a practical, research-informed approach that helps you regulate emotions and build secure relationships. In this book, you’ll learn how to: Identify the signs of anxious attachment and fear of abandonment Break patterns of jealousy, reassurance-seeking, and emotional reactivity Stop overthinking and calm relationship anxiety Communicate your needs clearly without pushing your partner away Replace self-criticism with self-compassion Build the foundation for secure, lasting love Through guided exercises and clear explanations, you’ll understand how attachment insecurity affects communication, conflict, and intimacy―and gain the tools to change those patterns without shame or self-blame. If you’re tired of repeating the same painful relationship cycles, this compassionate guide will help you move from attachment anxiety to emotional security―so you can build the loving, stable relationship you deserve. Review: Teaches you how to heal your attachment vs. slapping you with a label - This book is great. It's clear, very well explained and offers exercises for learning and growing. About 2.5 years ago I was having a lot tensions in my relationship because of the attachment "issues." I'd read the classic book on attachment but it was more like a label and it seemed to offer the only solution of finding a different partner. It seemed quite prescriptive and not about what a person can do to heal or lessen the friction. Did I probably have some childhood wounds with attachment? For sure. Who doesn't? Did I have a traumatic break up in my formative years. Yep--didn't you? I did therapy; I processed all the things years and years ago but I still had patterns come up that felt suffocating. Did I have to forever be trapped in reproducing those patterns. Absolutely not. Read this book to learn how to step out of it. I believe I found out about it via lawyer turned life coach Kara Loewentheil's podcast (UFYB) or coaching on relationships. The book works very well with coaching because it gently shows you how there are other ways to be in relationships that aren't driven by an anxiety label and how to work with anxious attachment habits. (Yes, I mean habit and not a diagnosis.) There are exercises and a lot of concrete tactics for working with and learning from your emotions and notions of attachments and rejection. As I learned and got curious, I learned how I was setting up / interpreting lots of things as rejection outside my relationship. For example, I am in a field that requires me to submit projects or proposals that could be rejected. If I don't pay attention, I can go through the rejection spin out here or in lots of other areas of my life. This is not a fun way to live and a sure-fire road to writer's block. This is pattern that I've largely unlearned and, when it does come up, I can recognize it much more quickly than before. It doesn't wreck my world. [NB: I read this book first and most recently read the Bouncing Back from Rejection one so I might be conflating the two a tad.] In all honesty, I might even love the Bouncing back from Rejection book even more. The ways of processing emotions and related thoughts resonates with how I deal with emotions like these when they come up (usually through self-coaching). I more often return to the rejection one because it helps me distance my learning from solely looking at my intimate relationships. Iterations of this pattern come up in all sorts of relationships and life endeavors and it's worth investing in learning about how to shift it. While not easy, these books and learning process have been life altering. They give you many concrete tools to unlearn these sort of patterns and can help you re-articulate your close relationship/friendships and your reactions to real or perceived rejection. Review: IF you're struggling to feel secure and comfortable in your relationships, help is here! - Words can't express how grateful I am that this book was written! Learning about Attachment Theory and learning about being Anxiously Attached has been extremely liberating. "Insecure in Love" helped me to understand not just who I am, yet why I am, who I am. Something that no counseling (individual or group), no church service or bible scripture or any conversation with anyone could help me see or understand. I always knew that something was different and understood that I just don't operate in relationships like other people, yet the missing piece to the puzzle was why and where it began. Being a therapist myself, I recognize that w/out a proper diagnosis, you can't treat the real issue. "Insecure in Love" allowed me the opportunity to address the real problem from the root. I must admit that I am still very afraid of being able to make the necessary changes as I am slowly (and consciously) working through the exercises as instructed. I am courageously confident that finding peace is an option, because I at least feel understood and I have a name for what it is and a plan to fix it. This book was wonderfully written and provides examples to make it even more comprehensive. If you truly want to take a step in the right direction, this book will help you get there, not to mention, the author affords you the opportunity to contact her personally if needed (I actually spoke to her). She is a true HELPER and that speaks volumes about the impact that her work will have (and is having) on those in need. ## Technical Specifications | Specification | Value | |---------------|-------| | Best Sellers Rank | #44,951 in Books ( See Top 100 in Books ) #54 in Parenting Teenagers (Books) #64 in Anxieties & Phobias #176 in Love & Romance (Books) | | Customer Reviews | 4.5 out of 5 stars 1,957 Reviews | ## Images ![- Insecure in Love: How Anxious Attachment Can Make You Feel Jealous, Needy, and Worried and What You Can Do About It - Image 1](https://m.media-amazon.com/images/I/71Czjpy1OPL.jpg) ## Customer Reviews ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Teaches you how to heal your attachment vs. slapping you with a label *by B***M on August 5, 2021* This book is great. It's clear, very well explained and offers exercises for learning and growing. About 2.5 years ago I was having a lot tensions in my relationship because of the attachment "issues." I'd read the classic book on attachment but it was more like a label and it seemed to offer the only solution of finding a different partner. It seemed quite prescriptive and not about what a person can do to heal or lessen the friction. Did I probably have some childhood wounds with attachment? For sure. Who doesn't? Did I have a traumatic break up in my formative years. Yep--didn't you? I did therapy; I processed all the things years and years ago but I still had patterns come up that felt suffocating. Did I have to forever be trapped in reproducing those patterns. Absolutely not. Read this book to learn how to step out of it. I believe I found out about it via lawyer turned life coach Kara Loewentheil's podcast (UFYB) or coaching on relationships. The book works very well with coaching because it gently shows you how there are other ways to be in relationships that aren't driven by an anxiety label and how to work with anxious attachment habits. (Yes, I mean habit and not a diagnosis.) There are exercises and a lot of concrete tactics for working with and learning from your emotions and notions of attachments and rejection. As I learned and got curious, I learned how I was setting up / interpreting lots of things as rejection outside my relationship. For example, I am in a field that requires me to submit projects or proposals that could be rejected. If I don't pay attention, I can go through the rejection spin out here or in lots of other areas of my life. This is not a fun way to live and a sure-fire road to writer's block. This is pattern that I've largely unlearned and, when it does come up, I can recognize it much more quickly than before. It doesn't wreck my world. [NB: I read this book first and most recently read the Bouncing Back from Rejection one so I might be conflating the two a tad.] In all honesty, I might even love the Bouncing back from Rejection book even more. The ways of processing emotions and related thoughts resonates with how I deal with emotions like these when they come up (usually through self-coaching). I more often return to the rejection one because it helps me distance my learning from solely looking at my intimate relationships. Iterations of this pattern come up in all sorts of relationships and life endeavors and it's worth investing in learning about how to shift it. While not easy, these books and learning process have been life altering. They give you many concrete tools to unlearn these sort of patterns and can help you re-articulate your close relationship/friendships and your reactions to real or perceived rejection. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ IF you're struggling to feel secure and comfortable in your relationships, help is here! *by C***N on December 31, 2017* Words can't express how grateful I am that this book was written! Learning about Attachment Theory and learning about being Anxiously Attached has been extremely liberating. "Insecure in Love" helped me to understand not just who I am, yet why I am, who I am. Something that no counseling (individual or group), no church service or bible scripture or any conversation with anyone could help me see or understand. I always knew that something was different and understood that I just don't operate in relationships like other people, yet the missing piece to the puzzle was why and where it began. Being a therapist myself, I recognize that w/out a proper diagnosis, you can't treat the real issue. "Insecure in Love" allowed me the opportunity to address the real problem from the root. I must admit that I am still very afraid of being able to make the necessary changes as I am slowly (and consciously) working through the exercises as instructed. I am courageously confident that finding peace is an option, because I at least feel understood and I have a name for what it is and a plan to fix it. This book was wonderfully written and provides examples to make it even more comprehensive. If you truly want to take a step in the right direction, this book will help you get there, not to mention, the author affords you the opportunity to contact her personally if needed (I actually spoke to her). She is a true HELPER and that speaks volumes about the impact that her work will have (and is having) on those in need. ### ⭐⭐⭐⭐ Easy read and informative *by A***A on August 12, 2024* Helpful to learn all the skills. 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