How to Love Me: The Lovers' Book of Questions Hardcover – September 1, 2007

My bf had flipped through this book years ago when with someone else actually! He encouraged me to order it for us so we could work through it as we constantly go over relationship building activities for fun. I have to say, we are working through the book whenever we have down time and we are both enjoying the experience.Some questions are harder for us to answer as they make us uncomfortable with being so brutally honest with topics such as drugs and sex but having been together for 4 years, we already knew what the answers were; it's just hard looking someone in the eye and telling them you want more oral sex!We both recommend this book to other couples and will be buying these as gifts for the upcoming holidays. Just keep in mind, the longer/better you know someone, you may already know some of their answers.

This is an all-inclusive relationship questionnaire book that I recommend every couple to go through. It is meant for one person to go through individually and then that person would give it to his/her partner for his/her partner to review. Ideally, I recommend getting two of these books, have each of you complete it individually (no influencing each other :-)), and once you have each completed the book, share it and go over your responses together. This book touches on all the important topics and facets of relationships that every couple should be/have discussed together - plus it's fun and a great way to get to know each other better.Note: make sure to NOT get a used copy of this book! You may risk getting a copy that already is filled out, so get it new :-)

The only critism I have is the order of the questions. The first chapter is the hardest so starting out can be a difficult journey for you and your partner at first! I think if the author organized the first chapter to ease into the deep questions would have started the experience much better. YOU WILL GET THROWN INTO DIFFICULT QUESTIONS! You can skip that and move onto other chapters which I would recommend. We did enjoy learning more about each other through the silly and difficult questions! I would recommend this for a couple that is thinking about marriage, not a couple that has been together for a long while.

I purchased 2 of these books after reading the other reviews. This book would not be helpful for a couple who had been married for a good amount of time, and this book could be awkward for a couple who was not comfortable sharing very intimate information with each other. If you already have a strong sense of your relationship and each other, this is a wonderful book to provoke self-exploration and communication between partners.My boyfriend saw the books and said, "This looks like a trick. It looks like a fight waiting to happen." Knowing each other, we agreed to not answer the questions we didn't want to know the answers to (i.e. people we have fantasized about, ex's we miss, etc...) and the books were a lot of fun for us to fill out and share. We laughed a lot while sharing our answers, and also had some great discussions. If you are in a serious relationship, this is a great purchase!

My GF bought this for us to fill out together as a romantic activity.I like the idea, and the book starts off with a bunch of good questions. The intimate questions are pretty sexy and really got us excited, we put the book down several times and went to straight to the bedroom. However, most of the questions are lame, and there are a lot of multiple choice questions that don't have answers that match us, so we were having to add our own multiple choice answers or just skip questions. There are a lot of duplicate questions that are worded a little differently. Also, there are a lot of questions that are just confusing and we didn't know how to answer. Also this book is very long and took me about 5 hours to fill out alone, and about double that or more to fill out with my partner.I wish there were more sexy questions, and I wish that the questions were edited to make more sense. A lot of the multiple choice questions should be converted into fill in the blank type questions. I wish the book were much shorter so that we could fill it out together in just a couple hours. I guess we learned a little more about each other doing this but not as much a good list of questions would have made possible.Its a good idea, maybe there is a better book out there.

I bought this book for me and my boyfriend, we've been together for 6 months and I think this is great. I don't think this is a book for people who have been together over a year+ Or older couples. It asks some sexual questions along with some fun ones. I tend to see this as more of a girly book it asks some questions I'd say would be more for a woman to answer. But I'd still suggest buying two if you're into both of you filling it out and switching. It was a fun book to fill out and I can't wait to read what my boyfriend writes!

Great questions if you're in a new relationship. I think these are great questions for becoming conscious about what it is you are really looking for, and needing from a relationship. I would never suggest sharing this with a partner. There are lots of questions about past relationships, and ex's, and not something that's necessary for a current partner to know or to be thinking about. I know my husband's ex's are not something I ever want to know about or think about. Anyone before me is irrelevant. My husband is the same way. Honestly, before this book, I never compared him to them. No reason to, he's just so different (that's why I married him).

My husband and I bought this book in an airport in Thailand on our way back from our honeymoon and greatly enjoyed working our way through it, getting to know each other better. We lost that copy about a year ago and having loved it so much, I ordered another copy for our second wedding anniversary this year.It's a good conversation starter from light questions to some that you have to think about to know what you yourself think. A lot of the answers were fairly apparent to us and pretty important so I think going through a book like this before getting married or within any serious relationship would be a good way to explore your compatibility and grow together.Highly and affectionately recommended.

Be prepared to destroy your relationship with this book. The questions you answer about your loved one includes everything from What do you like best about them and what do you like the least? What do they do that annoys you? What bad habits do they have? What's the worst fight you've ever had? What would you change about them? Etc We exchanged books and I found the answers to be hurtful. You aren't meant to know what your lover hates about you. The questions should be all positive. Too many negative options.

This book was a lot of fun to fill out. I got this for my boyfriend for our one-year anniversary. I did it in about 8 hours. Some of the questions don't apply (things I missed about ex's, favourite furniture in my house), but the book overall is a lot of fun! I could hardly put the thing down!

Book was very detailed yet I could see where it might cause conflict in a relationship with some of the questions