The Art of Seduction Paperback – October 7, 2003

I have spent more than 50,000 dollars in the pursuit of understanding psychology and sales and persuasion and Personal Development. This book is brilliant, well written, very informative, and lays out a very powerful truth that you can use. But, I don't want you to take my word for it. I'll prove it to you.A 1985 University of Michigan Study found that people make a decision within the first 5 seconds about whether or not they are interested. People file people in three forms. Yes, Maybe, Or No. In the form of seduction, when you're going to choose your victim, choose the woman who shows some interest in you, and/or who matches what you can give them. The goal of these techniques is to turn a yes into action, a maybe into a yes, and a no into a maybe. When you understand where you are with the person you're talking to, you can decide if the work you have to do to get the person is worth it.Approach Indirectly: This is a controversial one. If you go on PUAHATE or listen to Direct Gamers, they mock indirect game as stupid, saying that a woman knows that you're interested in them when you're approaching. People know that they're being sold to when someone randomly approaches them and starts talking about a topic. Now, what we know is that people can't resist what they can't detect. Keeping someone off balanced and uncertain creates just the amount of doubt needed for a woman to allow herself to be led through a process and hear a man out longer than she would. Go up and tell someone you want to change their mind about something and watch them shut down. Go up and tell someone you want to sell them something and watch them shut down. Indirect approaches create the best environment for seduction. I was into a direct approach for awhile, but, the more I studied influence and persuasion, the more I couldn't resist the studies that found approaching indirectly was the better form.Send Mixed Signals: This is a matter of Pushing and Pulling, Going Hot and Cold, having been on the opposite end of this, I know how it makes a person feel. There's ethical ways of doing this. Fractionating mood was proven in 1996 in a University of Missouri study, proving the ability to make people more charitable. A professor gave people paper's back for their finals, some people got A's, some got C's, then he went and looked at his book and said, he made a mistake, and randomly changed some people from A's to C's, and from C's to A's. When they left the room they were asked to volunteer. The people who didn't get a grade change signed up to volunteer for an hour on average. The people whose grades were raised volunteered 2.3 hours. the people whose grades were lowered volunteered 3.1 hours. Fractionating expectations, altering moods, through mixed signals will create a more pliable and reactive person.Appear To Be An Object Of Desire: Social Proofing is a scientifically verifiable method, with more studies than would be worth writing about.Create a Need: This is where people start talking about the immorality of this book. But really we can do simple things, back handed compliments, teasing, and correcting (calling someone out on their actions).Insinuation: From flirting to joking, indirect suggestion has been used as a powerful tool for orators since as far back as the bible, and used with great appeal in William Shakespeare's Ceasar.Enter Their Spirit: Let's be honest, the technique of being an Ideal Lover is important. Form a strong bond on the things that you connect with. Mirroring creates rapport and intense feelings of connection. People like people that are more like themselves. Jane marries James, Paul marries Paula, Carol marries Carl, yes, similarities create attraction.The science is clear. You want to dominate in a seductive world, you must throw away the concept of moral, or immoral, and you must seek instead to understand that we are all manipulators. Some of us just do it better than others. Once you accept that truth and you hold yourself as a person of value, you'll be able to move people to act as you want them to, without guilt, shame, or anger. Be reasonable, be kind, and you will get great results.

This book covers all about the skill of seduction so throughly and so elegantly. I enjoyed reading it page by page. Thank you Robert Greene.

Yoo, listen get this book as soon as u can. This book is a gem. All the reviews that are 1 or 2 stars are mostly because they didn’t get the book on time or it was damaged b it content in the book is great. So get it and start reading it. One chapter a day or even less if u want to really understand stand it and apply it. Wrote notes after each chapter. Good luck with the book 👍🥰

I love this book. One of the best I've read in a long time. I'm reading it simultaneously with Anais Nin's "Cities of the Interior" and there is a lot of resonance between the two.This is not a how-to manual. Stop thinking it is! That is missing hte point. If you read this looking for "tips" you will ignore the journey in your mad dash to the destination. The subject, for those who care, is human psychology, desire, longing and the creation of those. And Green has studied in close detail, so that we are rewarded with the best of history, Ovid, Freud, Greek Mythology, The Tale of Gengi. To scour through any of those books looking for the "good parts" would be exhausting!Everything about this book is entertaining and spot on - the catalog of seductive types, the possible objects of seduction, the anti-seducer. And you meet many interesting historical people - Kierkegaard, Cleopatra, Elvis Presley, Madame Recamier, Lola Montez, Lou Andreas Salomé, Oscar Wilde, Casanova, Ann Marie D'Orleans, and the list goes on and on. He describes them in intimate detail and how they were winners and losers in the game of love.I wish he would have covered two more - Anais Nin (as I alluded to earlier in this review). Nin met and seduced all sort of elite artists in Paris in the 1920s, always giving the impression of a good housewife to her husband, who was faithful to the end. And Yoko Ono. The power she had over john Lennon was..well..he was her slave. And Ono was not a cool detached coquette. She showed her insecurity, her jealousy. She was controlling. She broke down. In a way she was the ultimate anti-seductress but maybe John Lennon loved her all the more for that. She was human.The only part that lost me were the chapters on Charisma. I enjoyed reading about Rasputin but after that it got too political with Kennedy, etc. But the anti-seducer drew me right back in. Read this over and over again. By the end of COVID, you will be the new public health threat!