Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged World

When you have been to hell and back, you pick up negative emotions, negative perceptions. Some of them are hard to shed, even as things improve. It is easy for others to say "let it go, it is in the past" but that seldom works. Walking Through Anger is the ONE book that has changed my life. Dr Conte has changed my life. If you want to discover peace (it took me 55 years to find it), if you want to learn how to meet others where they are, buy this book. You will highlight sections to read again and again. Thank you Dr Conte from the bottom of my heart.

I was at a point of surrendering last year and I just became so tired of my anger. I was tired of the anger inside of me and I saw how it was negatively affecting my life. I grew up with a parent that expressed anger in an unhealthy manner and I was disheartened to now be an adult that was expressing anger in the same ways. I said I would never be that "angry guy" when I grew up. My anger finally came to a boiling point when I became so angry I punched a wall and broke my hand. I was so sad to see where my anger had lead me. It was my rock-bottom. I love my wife so much and yet I'm this angry guy who is drinking and punching walls.After breaking my hand, my wife and I went to couples therapy and that really helped. The therapist encouraged me to take care of myself and for both of us to create healthier spaces to contain each other. I also felt I needed to put in work on my anger outside of therapy. I didn’t know where to start but I found Dr. Conte on YouTube and his videos spoke to me. Once my wife told me she was pregnant, I knew I needed to really put in some work on my anger and understand it better. I wanted to learn conflict resolution and how to create a better space for conflict resolution in my marriage. I also needed to learn how to not fly off the handle or turn to self-desctructive behavior when anger gets its claws in me. For lack of better words, when I'm angry I just let things bother me all the time and it paints my whole world the ugly color of angry. I don't want to be a perenially angry husband and father. I wanted to change the trajectory of my path. I looked up other resources by Dr. Conte and found this book.This book helped me so much to not only deal with my anger but also how to deal with other people's anger. I think this book is great because it actually gives you tools and examples of how to deal with anger and conflict. It provides a blueprint that you can make your own. Am I cured of anger after reading this book? No! I am still a human that gets angry but the point is that now I have learnt how to deal with anger in a healthier manner. I’m able to have a moment of pause when I’m feeling strong emotions and this allows healthier conflict resolution. You see your views and other's views from different angles that allow both parties to arrive at a constructive solution. The chapter on non-attachment was very helpful. One of the main things I also fall back on when I can't remember anything else during conflict is "Listen. Validate. Explore Options" (LVE) and Dr. Conte does a great job explaining this core principle while adding tools to it throughout the book.My interactions with my wife during disagreements have improved drastically. This book also helped me see that my own anger towards myself was a big issue in my angry outlook on life. I started a mindfulness/breathing practice on top of making sure to do things that help me unwind (exercise, read, etc.). In my opinion, you definitely need to couple Dr. Conte's philosophies with taking care of yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. In my opinion, we all pick up a book like this because we have enough compassion and love for ourselves to want to change. I posted this long review only in hopes that it helps a person that was in my shoes with their anger before I reached out for help. Remember you are not your anger. Be kind to yourself! We're all rooting for each other! Who doesn't want a less angry self, family, community, planet?

I found Dr. Conte's perfect mixture of practical application and behavioral science to be refreshing and easy to read. While his experience has proven his methods in diverse and difficult applications, it can also be applied to routine situations that we all deal with every day both in our working environments and at home with friends and family. I really enjoyed this! Great read!!! It has already made me stop and think several times!

A fantastic read if you find yourself struggling with communication breakdowns during conflict. Dr Conte offers great insights as to how our psyches work and explanations as to how to counter our own brains’ desire to maintain our sense of the world - for positive or negative - and how that interferes with our ability to connect with others in times of disagreement. We’re all works in progress and I know that this book is helping me tremendously on my own journey to improving my sense of self-worth and ultimately the relationship with my wife.

Excellent book. It helped me with some things I was struggling with. It has lots of practical advice for dealing with people, whether they are family or coworkers. I like this book a lot and highly recommend it!

This book is life changing! A step by step guide to help you handle any emotion! Thank you Dr. Conte!!!

If you want to stay sane in a crazy world, than Dr. Christian Conte is the go to guy. This book has sincerely given me peace of mind. Highly recommended.

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Overall I've found Dr Conte's book and Youtube channel very helpful. It's funny reading his book because he almost seems gangster on Youtube, but he's obviously highly educated and you can tell from his writing style.I think my biggest takeaway is that I don't live in a cartoon world and I can say that past outbursts of anger were often because of unrealistic expectations about how things "should be." I've found his approach to be very helpful to talk myself off the ledge and calm down.His approach to empathetic communication was also very helpful and the three steps he outlines are simple and easy to remember. I always appreciate simple solutions as the complicated ones are too hard to remember when I need it.The only thing I would say is, as a Christian, I find the message somewhat subversive when he discusses the different sides of a box and that it's impossible to know truth and everyone has a different point of view and partial knowledge of truth. Dr Conte isn't shy about talking about his Buddhist beliefs and obviously has a broader view of truth. It didn't bother me as I'm a long time Christian and secure in my beliefs, but that view is incompatible with the one who said "I am THE Way, THE truth and THE life." It kind of reminds me of when Pontius Pilate cynically asked Jesus "what is truth" I imagine it was with scorn and a sneer. I just thought I'd throw that out there for any Christians who may pick this book up. I still found it very helpful and I'm going to start reading it a second time and at some point I'll probably pick up the audio book. I'd actually like to hear it in Dr Conte's voice.Good stuff and I'll continue listening to his Youtube channel. He seems like a really good guy and he's gotten his hands dirty in the trenches working with convicts, so I appreciate his real world experience.

Have not read all the book yet but so far find it helpful