Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too

Amazing book! This book is perfect for those who practice gentle parenting. It gives practical advice that gets to the bottom of the actions and gives the child the tool he needs to deal with his feelings appropriately. There are no punishments given out, which I love because while punishments *might* change the behavior temporarily, it doesn't actually fix anything. In one day I started noticing a difference in bahvior with my four boys. Usually when they get mad at each other, they just haul off and hit each other. Now they are talking about how they feel and communicating what they want. Obviously there is still some fighting but its gotten so much better. And the bickering has lessoned as well. I read this all in less than two days and will be rereading it!

I am an only child and I just had my second daughter so I was looking for a general guide of how to handle sibling relationships, especially given that I have no first hand experience. My older daughter is 2 1/2 and my younger is now 8 months. I like the reflection techniques outlined in this book and use them with my toddler even when her sister isn't involved (it sounds like you're upset right now, etc). She has even started coming to me and telling me she feels frustrated or sad/mad. Some of the techniques are definitely more for when the siblings are older, but it helped give me ideas for how to set a basis for how I react to their relationship as siblings as they get older. I would definitely recommend this as a great book to get ideas from even if you don't follow it 100%. I think it is a great guide and I'm sure I will be rereading it as my girls get older and more conflicts begin.

This book is fabulous and offers many great ideas. I believe every parent of two or more children will find it worth their time to read. The reason I didn't give a full 5 stars is because I didn't find too many answers for handling very young children. I have 3 children with a total of 3 years space between the oldest and the youngest and right now the oldest is 5. He responds to the ideas in the books but the other two are still too young...so we continue to have altercations and unrest (that I hope will be greatly reduced in the next few years!) In short, the book is great but reading it didn't eliminate rivalry in our house....yet(?)

My number one recommendation to parents on the journey to a better family life!

I HIGHLY recommend this book if your kids are anywhere near mine and constantly bickering and fighting. I read this book I'm just a couple of days. It has a lot of great tips that are easy to implement. I've already started using some of the suggestions, and it has amazed me how it's actually worked to diffuse situations. After I finished, I went through it again to re-read all of the things I highlighted just to refresh myself. I wish I had read this years ago when my kids were little.

This was an eye-opener. I gave me insight into my family dynamics as a sibling and a daughter and especially as a newer parent. This book will help me to prevent some of the painful mistakes that many parents make unknowingly.

I've read this book twice through. I'm probably going to read it for a third time soon. I like the general ideas shared. I like the format of the book: how the topics are divided, and that the authors share the conversations they've had with others. I very much appreciate this book. It has given me a lot to think about and process. Some of the things I've gotten out of the book: let each sibling experiment everything (no need to stick to labels -i.e. he's athletic, so only he gets to do sports), when spending time alone with one child, don't talk about the other. These are things that seem obvious, but the book really provided a fresh lenses for me. My kids were 4 and under 1, when I read it for the first time.

Was familiar with the authors from a previous book, this one is an absolute gold mine of information! Very well written, easy to read, sums up everything you need to know and how to apply everything and MOSTLY, IT WORKS!!!! No matter the age of the siblings - up to late adulthood - this is truly amazing information to make siblings relationship work. I loved all the many examples. I think it really cheers everything about that subject.

This book is like an instruction manual for parenting. It provides very specific and clear steps for changing the way we communicate with children. When I made the changes described in the book, it had an immediate, positive effect!

Excelente libro....TOP 3 libro para recomendar a papás con un segundo hijo en camino!!!! Increíble todo lo que presentan y la manera en la que lo hacen. expresa totalmente el sentir de los padres y las soluciones. Muy muy recomendado!!!

This book is full of great stories and ideas, and is very useful to even those with education or child development backgrounds. Exercises can be tried right away at home. Great way to help clients. Highly recommend.

leuk boek, vol afwisselende voorbeelden zit die je goed als ouder helpen om in te zien hoe het ook anders kan met weinig moeite. geschreven in vlotte stijl met humor.

What a fantastic book, I only wish I'd known and read it years earlier. I have two daughters aged 17 & 16 born just under 13 months apart and it was getting to the stage where we couldn't even sit to eat dinner at our table together without a war between the two if them. I read the first 4 chapters late on a Saturday evening and then felt confident to ask for a family meeting that Sunday evening knowing I could not continue as we had been doing. We talked for 2 hours the four of us, very productively and honestly fir the first time ever. I found myself saying things like " I know how that must-have made you feel" & "how do you both suggest that this can be worked out". The result so far is amazing, for the next couple of hours all you could hear from them both was chatting and laughing, and they even made muffins together. Something they haven't done together since they were small. They both even told us of the things they were grateful of us for, which made us feel that we were doing something right. Thank you so much fir this enlightenment. I have just purchased how to talk so teens will listen and listen so teens will talk. Looking forward to reading that one but won't start right now as its 2.40am as had to finish this one within 24 hours as couldn't put it down.