As For Me And My House Crafting Your Marriage To Last

It’s like reading all the [cumulative years of thoughts, diaries, notes-to-self, life lessons and memories turned into] stories of one good man from a simpler time (Late 60s onward?) with a good marriage with its challenges. It feels like reading the book I wish my own father or grandfather had written. Simple perspectives on how relationships DO work in reality. How to achieve harmony in the household and relationship. Disillusions to dispel from the get-go. Opening your eyes to seeing the true nature of common misunderstandings, giving you the opportunity to see the bigger picture and fix the leak before the relationship begins to corrode. How to prevent and heal the damages, even infidelity. I mostly appreciated the basic facts of what marriage ACTUALLY IS, whether in Christian terms or purely societal by law.

I pulled this book off my shelf looking for wise words for an engaged friend at her wedding shower. I was blown away by the depth, wisdom and transparency of Wangerin. How I got the book or why I'd not yet read it, I don't know. Wangerin has been one of my favorite authors, and he does not disappoint in this book, offering marriage tools that are nothing like the self-help tips of other books in this class. His words are born from experience and a mixture of both pain and joy in marriage. He speaks as a pastor, a friend and counselor, offering priestly wisdom to marriages that are struggling or doing well. Every marriage can benefit from this Christ-centered model of forgiveness, repentance and long-suffering love. The book would make a great study book for small groups or a weekend marriage retreat and includes study questions and retreat suggestions. I wish I'd read it early in my marriage, but I'm grateful I read it 15 years in; perhaps with some years behind us, I can appreciate more what is behind the wisdom Wangerin shares. I heartily recommend to every couple at any stage.

This book was given to me and my husband as a guide while going through marriage counciling. It is a deep read but so valuable. The chapters on forgiveness especially, are very powerful. I would recommend it to any Christian for a true understanding of God's will for a marriage which would be a basis also for a lasting and fulfilling mattiage.

Should be recommended reading for every human being. Wangerin's writing style can be a bit too sappy and heavy-handed at times, but he's made a great book for everyone here.The highlight is the story with his own wife, showing two people doing plain old work to pull their marriage back from where most people don't return. Such a wonderful story. You can bet I gave it to my girlfriend when we started talking about marriage.

I've found this book to be insightful and easy to read. Wangerin is open and honest about the joys and hardships of relationships; he wipes away romantic misconceptions while explaining how wonderful solid relationships really are. He's given us some great tools for figuring out our problems and recognizing issues for what they truly are instead of what they seem on the surface. I appreciate his book and would recommend it to all couples seeking a life-long relationship.

This by far is the best book I have ever read on marriage. To convey that both parties are responsible is so refreshing, instead of blaming one partner for the fault the comes to the top of a marriage more often. It's a grown up, articulate tool for putting things right in your own relationship and marriage. Everyone would benefit from this book.

a friend gave this book to my husband and me for a wedding present, and we read through it together... he read it aloud to me :) it was wonderful and brought up lots of things we hadn't thought to discuss, and gave insightful and fresh ideas about how to handle different situations. THe best thing is it isn't a 10 ways to make your marriage work kind of book... it is filled with prinicples and ideas... so it can be used in all sorts of situations. we have been married for almost 2 years now, and we are going to read through it again together this summer as a good reminder! :)

The book, AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE -- CRAFTING YOUR MARRIAGE TO LAST, by Walter Wangerin, Jr., is excellent. Wangerin suggests we think of a marriage consisting of THREE beings -- the husband, the wife, and the relationship itself. He says NOT to try to make each person's jobs in the marriage fit the standard ones set by society but rather to suit the tasks of the marriage to the personalities and temperaments of each person -- those of the wife and those of the husband. He says that each person should do his or her chosen tasks for the good of the relationship. He also emphasizes that forgiveness is one of the primary tools and tasks of a good marriage. I give the book five stars and highly recommend it for couples who are engaged, for those who are newly weds, AND for those of us who have been married for years. It is a jewel!

Most marriage books we've been given are cliche, and honestly not very useful. It feels like the couple who writes them doesn't consider that others situations might be different than their own. This is not the case for this author. Yes he tells his own story but he breaks it into universal pieces that can apply to anyone. It's written elegantly as well, which makes it easy to read.This is the book I recommend to newly weds. Give it a read if you are new, or old.

This is easily the best book I've read on marriage, and a wonderful gift for the newly married in particular. Wangerin has a clear and sympathetic understanding of the problems that marriage inevitably creates. But even more, he knows the help that God provides, help that converts those potential deal-breakers into sources of strength and closeness between husband and wife. Read this book-- or, better yet, read it with your spouse!

He gives wonderful examples from his on experience and has specific actions for people to follow.