The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman's Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible

I purchased this book July 2012, after re-entering the single scene and needing some dating pointers. This book turned out to be so much more than just dating "pointers"In the very first chapter Dr. Binazir points out "Deep down, women seek relationships not because they want a particular guy, but rather because they want the feelings that a good relationship brings them." The chapter then becomes about loving yourself fully, focusing on all the great things you already have going on in your life and teaches you the habits to implement be successful with anything in life. In chapter two (2) Dr. A guides you through discovering or analyzing "who you really are" and gives you different techniques from meditation to yoga to help you along. Notice the theme? This book is really about you, not about dating! I mean yes, he does eventually get to the dating part, but by the time you get to it you are so empowered, feeling sexy, grateful and loving towards yourself, the dating stuff is just icing.This book has helped me change how I view and treat myself as well as the ones I love. Dr A. writes in a very relaxed, easy to understand way that makes it feel as if you are speaking to someone you already know. He doesn't have you make drastic sudden changes at once, however one step or chapter at a time he has you try new things and by the end of the book you are like: Wow, how can something so simple be so life changing?I read so many books, I forget who said what. Not the case with this book, my friends and I are always making references to it, but most important, any time I have had a question, I have emailed Dr. A and guess what? He has responded, not brushing me off, but an actual detailed email with his thoughts on the matter. Most times the question has not been about the book but about life in general. His blog is outstanding, I follow it religiously.Since reading this book, I meditate more, am more faithful to yoga or working out, I engage in more "feel good" activities, I feel even better about myself (I always have, more so now) and most importantly I'm always seeking to do what makes me feel good and happy. This was an amazing purchase.

Hello all,Are you the type of gal that just needs to see the big picture of things?Are you the type that analyzes and make connections from the smallest of details to the grandest?Are you the type that has a gazillion questions on men, love, and to find yourself realizing that it starts with you?DO you find yourself living in denial...that you actually want to be accepted and loved by alL?Have you finally come to terms that you need help in breaking free from your ego?Just got out of a relationship? lost yourself?the list of questions that one has can go on and on...IF so, then this book will hit it out of the ball park!I cried. literally. CRIED. I cried because finally, someone has given me INSTRUCTIONS what i need to do to be liberated. I also cried realizing that the battle can be over. The battle of my internal conflicts. I never loved a book so dearly. CALLED all my gfs and with such a passionate disposition would share my discovery. When my gfs are asking me for advice, i think to myself wow..this book would answer all her questions!The deep rooted issues of interpersonal relationships and intimacy starts with our internal workings.How should i talk? how should i be? what should i say? how should i behave? Why do i keep "changing" myself to be validated and accepted by another? Because of this need for acceptance and validation, my body language and conversations reveal that. For example, I can be showing interest and show a big personality just to be approved (work, friends, love etc) but my body language could be expressing otherwise and deep down perhaps that need will cloud the way i phrase my sentences, perhaps it screams "i don't know how i am and i'll just adapt to you...i need your company because i can't stand my own..i need your praise"...I am tired of not having my own self in relationships. Especially, with men. (boy how i love men! meow) problem is...i dont know what the problem is to even fix! this book will do it for you.The author expresses such big ideas that slowly flow in and out, weaving between ideas and then CONNECTING it to the solution. who, what, where, when, why? how so? This book is indeed for the smart women out there..its a deep book that requires a mind that sees things as a whole not just in small parts. IT gets down to the main core of every relationship issues: poor decisions, lack of esteem, confidence, self-conscisouness,ego, etc, etcThis book will help you if you let it.Working through all the issues that lead us to attack, defensiveness, anger, neediness, controlling ways, grasping, avoidance. Those are all ego. And as we surrender those things which form walls around our hearts, then we attain the true authentic self. After the foundation is set, the author proceeds with subjective ideas and solutions and reasons to help you continue on your path of learning how to fix those mistakes : be better at decision making, better self esteem-concept, free to be yourself and attract those that want it all and not just part of it. (why does this have to do with dating? or getting men and being irresistable? how? and what are the solutions? buy the book) Also comes with perks, free downloads of mediation excercises as well as lectureI don't want to spoil this book at all. For i am in the middle. I would like to however share how i learn. I learn by proactively asking questions..making connections, and seeking solutions. Reading the book, i would go back and forth through the chapters to answer questions i have while reading a certain page. IF the author wrote "we'll get into this later in chapter 10" i must go to it immediately because i wont be able to make the connection later. ITs a book filled with possibilities...my god, yes i have been a bit depressed from the content because..its actually making me question and answer and ACT on those ideas which i find to be difficult as usual..but like the book says..with time and consistency it will form a habit which will then in turn be your solutions. In Addition, i would take my time to reflect on each chapter. Write my thoughts and opinions. Discover myself. if the chapter is asking what my values are (he'll give examples) i'll finish that chapter and go on this hard journey of finding the courage to ask myself "what are my values and beliefs"he states "We are all entitled to our actions, not the results of them. The actions are the results."Another thing i enjoyed, i personally love mental stimulation and always seeking out new information to learn. However, i get lazy at times to do the seeking. The book offers readers multiculturalism , quotes from others, books, different religious point of views. Scientific experiments done. FACTUAL things. jesus then from there i would google the name of Voltaire then learn about him..which made me discover the person of my favorite saying. Or if he mentions something about eastern spiritual traditions, it would embark me on a internet adventure of endless knowledge seeking.Overall: all this seeking and forward thinking will break us free from our small world. Overall theme im getting so far is why make our world small? when we have a choice to expand as much as we want?"wanna know why and how? buy it. you'll never need another dating book again. more like cliche dating book again.

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Excellent read..Practical in every sense.A must read...Wish I had read it much earlier. Wonderful effort. Thank you and looking forward for more such works.

Useful tips for women who wish to improve their dating skills. There s a great lot of information, so I ll reads it again soon :)

This book is more than a dating book it is a philosophy for life it is an empowering tomb of work and one of the best self-help books I have read. do not hesitate for a moment to buy this book because you will go back over and over it. I would say this book is about empowerment and knowledge it is easy to access and provides the reader with tools to support themselves rather than other dating books which encourage you to pretend to be something you're not.

The author mostly focus on letting your own inner light shine instead of tricks and methods to attract a good partner. He references many good books, I have been reading a lot about the subject and this is a good book.