The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a Big Difference

If psychobabble isn't your thing, this book is great! Ms. Feldhahn interviewed very happy married couples to find out what little things they did that made a big difference in their marriages and boiled it down to what seemed to be the shared habits of most of the couples. In addition, Ms. Feldhahn gives an overview of those points on YouTube that may not be as much detail, but gives you the highlights and she is both easy to read and easy to listen to - personable and understandable. Between the book and her videos, you've got the makings of a marriage seminar without having to spill your deepest secrets in front of 50 or so other couples! Even if you're not on the verge of divorce, these are habits that you can learn and improve your already pretty good marriage. The most important point just involves a shift in how you think.

This is an excellent resource for those who are already married or those couples considering it. I'm a pastor who counsels couples on a daily basis and this book is a staple for both my premarital and marital counseling practice. It is a very practical, research-based summary of the attitudes, expectations, and behaviors that make marriage work. I always tell couples that "nobody teaches us how to be married," but "Surprising Secrets" provides a great framework for discussing with couples how to be more effective marriage partners and how to really enjoy the journey together. I also like the positive emphasis, looking at what is already working for those "highly happy" couples, so that we can replicate those attitudes and practices in our own marriages. I've given away several hundred copies of this book to couples I counsel with, and I recommend it highly.

The book is very good and I received it in very quick time. Would definitely recommend

My wife and I enjoyed this book and while there was no rocket science discovery within its pages, it served as a reminder of all of the things we need to be doing and communicating if we want successful marriages. I recomend it as a wake up call to remind us of how important our spouses are to us.

The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages was a great read! The tips given are fairly simple, and they make sense why they would work. I especially liked that there are charts of the surveys of couples throughout the book, so not only are the percentages given for how couples responded to questions about their feelings about their marriages, but you can also see these same percentages in chart forms. Shaunti is quick to say, more than once, that it is too much to try to work on all the tips at once; start with one and slowly add the others. I sure wish I had had this book years ago when I was in a struggling marriage!

I recommend this book to everyone who is married and those who would like to become married; it's that good!I've been married 49 years to the same woman. Like all marriages, we've had our ups and downs. Even after all that time and experience, this book taught me things that I can easily do to make my marriage for both my wife and me.Having an engineering background, I wanted to "test" some of the things I learned to see if they really applied to my wife. After a few weeks, my wife expressed that she was thankful to know that I really loved her in spite of her mistakes. I had tried during all my marriage to get the message through to her that I love her regardless of what she does; I believe that applying what I learned from this book is responsible for that breakthrough.While the author writes from a Christian perspective, all people can get valuable tips to make their marriages better. The "tips" are not gimmicks to be used to get a response. They are reminders to do things that mean little to you (which is why you don't do them regularly), but mean a lot to your spouse.You can't make a better investment in buying this book and making the investment of your time to understand and apply what you have come to understand. Take the plunge and reap the returns on your investments!

I really like this book. It has so many ideas but if you just try to implement them you could have a great marriage. If we could only implement a little bit of this it would change the way we see marriage in our nation. If you think you’re getting married, definitely get this book

Having read a couple of other books by this author I went into this with fairly high expectations, I have to say I wasn't disappointed. A lot of times in a relationship it's the little things that really make a difference and this book does a great job of highlighting some little things that can have a huge impact on your marriage. Some of the things are fairly obvious and some are so obvious that you wonder why you didn't think of it before because you've overlooked it. I pulled some really useful things from this book and have been applying them and it's made a difference already, it's not a cure all but nothing is. Marriage is hard work and this book gives you more tools to go to work with even if you're the only one doing the working right now, it's amazing what a change in mindset can really do to a person and ultimately a relationship. I highly recommend this for those who are struggling in their marriage and even those who aren't, I think there's something in this book that can be useful to any married couple at any stage of their marriage.

Excellent for any stage of marriage or relationship.This book has been on my wish lists for years and I finally purchased it and it is worth it's weight in gold! Tangable, helpful advice. Well written.I highly recommend!!

Excellent livre qui part d'une enquête approfondie, un observation attentive des couples qui fonctionnent très bien ensemble. On a comparé les couples qui sont très heureux à ceux dont un seul membre est très heureux et à ceux qui ne sont que moyennement satisfaits. Les couples très heureux ensemble n'agissent pas envers l'autre tout à fait de la même façon. Cette différence semble minime au premier regard mais elle a un impact énorme sur le long terme.

Amazing book for couples, its true that tiny things matter a lot in marriage. Not too deep, just high level. No solution giving book but just directions.

This is an excellent book with very practical suggestions for both husband and wife about the importance of little details of affection and respect towards each other in order to be "highly happy married" vs. having an o.k. marriage. The little details described in the book are very accessible to everyone and come from extensive research, which is super interesting! This is a gem that couples who want to build stronger marriages should read!

One of the best books yet, on helping couples to set the bar for their relationship. I have taken lots of notes, which I plan to use in my marriage counselling practice. This is especially useful information for pre-marital counselling.