Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong

At first glance, you may think that Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong by Eric Barker is another book by some motivational speaker designed to convey the secrets of life and success. Don’t make that mistake. Yes, I know, just about everybody who’s going to tell you how to improve yourself today claims that they’ve based their recommendations on science or, in a burst of faddism, “neuroscience.” Most of them haven’t done enough homework. This book is different. If you’re serious about living a life that’s more like the one you want to live, you should read this book. Before I tell you why, let me tell you something about me so you can judge my recommendations. I’m 71 years old, and for more than half a century, I’ve been working on making myself and my life better. I’ve learned a lot by getting it wrong and then adjusting, and I’ve learned a lot by reading and talking to other people and trying things. As a result, I’ve read a lot of books about how to do life better and this is one of the best. Early in the book, Eric Barker says this: “You’ve been told about all the qualities and tactics that will help you get where you want to go, but there’s no real proof – and perhaps you’ve seen plenty of exceptions. That’s what we’re going to look at in this book.” Barker keeps his promise in six focused chapters. Chapter 1 is about whether playing it safe produces success. Chapter 2 deals with whether nice guys finish last or first. In Chapter 3, he looks at the emerging science of resilience, starting with Navy SEAL training. I bet you’ve never thought of SEAL training as a game, but you might after you read this. Chapter 4 addresses the issue of whether success is based on what you know or who you know. Chapter 5 is all about attitude. Chapter 6 is a step back to review the big picture. Barker makes another promise early in the book. He promises that in each chapter he’ll review both sides of the issue. He keeps that promise and it’s one of the reasons why this is a great and helpful book. This book was valuable to me for several reasons. Here they are. Barker does what many great business and self-help authors do. He states things that you could not have articulated before but seem obvious once he says them. One thing like that for me was the fact that the major reason people don’t get enough sleep is that they spend the time working. He also adds detail and insight to things I already knew. I knew that turning challenges into games was a good thing and it’s a technique I’ve used for years, but I didn’t know much of the science behind it until I read this book. In fact, this book has the best short summary I’ve come across of how to use game elements to make your life and work experience better. Barker reframed things that I already knew. I knew, for example, that the beginnings and endings of things are perceived as important. I used that to design speeches and training programs. After reading this book, I’m thinking about the same thing when I plan my day. There’s a bit of science about why your mood in the morning can affect your whole day. And more about ending the day right. There are also things here that I’d already discovered for myself over the last several decades. Among them are the facts that naps can greatly improve performance and that relationships are the key to a satisfying life. There’s also the idea that saying “no” is a critical skill if you want to be as successful as possible. There’s material on why making progress every day and seeking out small wins is both a good strategy and emotionally satisfying. There were also some things that were brand-new to me. I learned about self-compassion and it’s something that I will try to use in my life. Barker told me about the research that supports the idea that we don’t do the things that make us the happiest naturally. Instead, we do what’s easy. And he introduced me to the idea of intensifiers, traits that are mostly negative but can be huge performance enhancers in certain situations. In addition to covering both sides of several important issues, Barker does a magnificent job of connecting the dots. As you move through the book you will find that things discussed in early chapters will make another visit in later chapters. Toward the end of the book he puts together a framework for creating a successful life. I’ve used several of these frameworks in my life to evaluate how things were going and to get ideas for what improvements I should prioritize. Generally, they had more than four issues. His four are happiness (enjoying), achievement (winning), significance (counting to others), and legacy. A single word for legacy is extending, but I find his definition much more helpful: “Establishing your values or accomplishments in ways that help others find future success.” Bottom Line Barking Up the Wrong Tree is a book which will help you do better at work and in life.

I have followed Eric Barker's blog on and off for a while, and when he published a book I was immediately interested. I am happy with where I am in my career and a book about success would not normally interest me, but for Barking Up the Wrong Tree, a combination of knowing the author's style and a focus on the research behind "success" attracted me. Shortly into the book, I realized that I wanted to remember what I was reading and starting doing something that I haven't while reading a book since college - taking notes. I took copious notes, since although the book is fairly brief, it has little fluff and lots of useful content that I wanted to remember. If you don't want to take notes, don't worry - each chapter has a summary of the key points at its end. Looking back at those notes, they're almost funny in how simple they are. Much of the content in "Barking Up the Wrong Tree" seems obvious, as if you already knew what you're reading, but never stopped to think about it. An example point: valedictorians aren't the world's high achievers, since they learn to succeed within a set of boundaries that don't exist outside of an educational environment. It seems almost self-evident when you pause to think about it, but reading summaries of the research behind these points backs them up and helps to make the point stick. There is/are plenty of tips and and guidance that Mr. Barker provides to help people looking to succeed in their careers, but I like that he spends time providing a rationale that success is more than climbing the ladder. A portion of the the book is dedicated to how to find success in life in a way that makes you happy. It sounds a little touchy-feely, but I know plenty of people who can use this advice, even those who aren't machiavellian by nature. Overall, I found this to be a great read. I found myself talking about it often with friends and family, though the common-sense nature of much of what I ended up describing didn't have them in awe of what I had read, as I generally discussed key points more. I'm still happy with it and have gifted the book to a friend as well, which now that I think about it, might be risky given the title. C'est la vie. Oh, and I'm not telling my kids the point about the valedictorians. They can hear that one when they're out of school.

If you feel as if you're spinning your wheels and regularly running into walls... or just not being as successful (in ANY area of your life) as you'd like, get this book. Don't plan to read it in one sitting. So far, I haven't been able to read more than a few pages before I experience an avalanche of "ah-HA!" moments, or at least things I need to stop and ponder. But, I keep going. After over a month, I'm only at the end of Chapter 3... but my life has changed dramatically, incrementally, and for the better. Not quite a full 180, yet, but... yes, SO much better! I can't imagine reading this on a tablet or Kindle. Get the paper version, instead. You'll be able to read a little, pause and think about it, maybe journal a bit... without your screen going dark and distracting you. The biggest challenge may be to keep moving forward through this book. His advice is well-researched and well-supported... and can result in massive improvements in your life, IF you're willing to do the work. And, for me, most of this was in my own head. Even if you get through just one chapter of this book, or maybe even half a chapter, I think you'll experience positive change and perhaps some relief. Give it a try.

Warning! This book can change your perspective about success.

A friend forwarded the author's newsletter to me, which he sends out every 2 weeks I think. He always covers very interesting topics based on a lot of high class research, all about how to improve life. So it was no question for me to instantly order this book. I enjoyed every page because it's so well written and gives so much insight on what we normally think is relevant for being successful but, if we take a closer look sometimes turns out is completely different from what we assume. Eric gives very nice (and sometimes funny) real life examples (I favour the story of that US colonel!) which supports that we should think different about success. All in all it's one of the best books I read since years and I strongly recommend it. A must-read!

Nice book, he cares to explain why people is succeeding with a very particular approach.

有名なビジネス書や様々な社会科学の成果を活用し、成功するためにはどうすれば良いかを説いた、いかにもアメリカ的な本。著者自身がリサーチを行なったわけではなく、他の専門家の研究を援用しているだけなのだが、とにかく話を進めるのが上手い。グレン・グールド、テッド・ウィリアムズ、チンギス・ハンなど、一見すると脈絡がない人物を登場させて読者を唖然とさせるとともに、先を読ませようとする筆者のエンタメ心はこの種のビジネス書では突出しており、とにかく読んでいて面白い。 繰り返しになるが、本書で書かれてあることは、他で書かれてあることの焼き直しなのだが、よくまとまっている。個人的に記憶に残っている点を備忘録的に書き連ねると以下の通り。 ・「寛容」なしっぺ返しが成功の秘訣。 ・楽観的に考える（失敗は一時的なこと、失敗を普遍化しない）。 ・辛いことはゲームとして楽しむ。小さな勝利を大事にする。 ・時間の５パーセントから１０パーセントを、新しいことへの挑戦に充てる。 ・メンターにつく。 ・１日の終わりに、その日の良い出来事を思い返すとともに、次の日に行うべきことを考える。 ・感謝の念を示すことがネットワーキングの肝。 ・ビッグ４はhappiness, achievement, significance, legacy ・自由時間を増やすことではなく、自由時間を上手くマネージすることが幸福感を増大させる。

Good book