How to be Irresistible to White Men: Interracial Dating Secrets of Asian Women Black Women Who Swirl Should Know Kindle Edition

Of all the advice books put out by the dating/industrial complex, this one has got to be one of the WORST I've ever read. The advice given is terrible. To make a long story short, the author thinks the way for a Black woman to get a white man is to act like a stereotypical Asian woman. To hear this author talk, Black women are the most undateable and the other races are so perfect. Nonsense! There is good and bad in everyone. If a person has to change so much in order to get a man (of any race) that they can't be themselves and they have to live a lie, then what is the point? Please ladies, skip this book. It will do nothing but either make you angry or lower your self esteem or both.

This book is very one sided. Of course it is curated according to the author's experience, but here is the problem. The book puts everyone in one box and assumes that ALL Black Women have to fit this mold to attract ANY WHITE MAN. Hmm NO! I also agree with the reviewer who states the book encourages people pleasing. According to this book I have to change everything I am to attract a man and it is all superficial. The author must have encountered some pretty shallow individuals in her life. I was looking more for suggestions to enhance who I am as a person, not a How To on reconstructing myself into a fake, shallow, paper cut-out of a woman. The book is a very bad representation of white men and their expectations and attractions of women... of any kind. This book is borderline shaming! Please use your best discretion when reading it. Take away only what is helpful. If you don't fit the standard and shallow mold of this book, PLEASE DO NOT FEEL BAD ABOUT WHO YOU ARE!!!!! PLEASE DON"T!!!!

Dress like a lady, don't be ghetto, don't live in the hood blah, blah blah. I was hoping for something more.

THIS.BOOK.IS.AMAZING!!! Really, it is! If you have been out of the dating game for awhile, or if you have felt that you need help with dating this book is for you! I have actually read it twice now. Some of the advice in here IS common sense, but we ladies need reminders. And some ladies out there really need good solid common sense dating advice.But other things in this book really give you something to think about and to learn from! Some of the advice here I never even considered! Or I had but had chastised myself for thinking that way, and now I know my thinking was spot on!I considered buying this book for well over a year before I actually purchased it! I don't know why I took so long. I guess when the student is ready the teacher will appear. If you are a Black women you should really pick this book up. I know the title says 'White men,' but this book will help you be successful with ALL men.Honestly one of the best dating books I've read. Perfect, for helping you to get back out there after a long absence or getting out there to get this dating thing right!

Great read. Very direct and honest. I personally didn't choose to read this book to attract "white men". Instead, I sought to learn of better ways to appeal and attract men of higher quality/class, otherwise known as "marriageable men". No, I'm not equating whiteness with a particular class, but let's be honest, there is a striking correlation. (For both Blacks and Whites).

This book is brutally honest and that is a good thing. I think it has a lot of good advice in it. She also helps to make you not feel so guilty. I don't know why but some black women (me included) feel like we are "in the closet" about admitting we like white guys too. We are afraid of being found out and I think white guys pick up on that too. But she gives you specific how-to's and I love this book. I have highlighted so much and will continue to refer back.

This book has been very helpful to me. Even though I have dated interracially for years, I realized a couple of things that I have done in the past that I will correct for future dates. An example would be mentioning that I only date white men, or asking my date if they have ever dated a black woman before. Also, I will pay attention to my facial expressions more now. Sometimes even though I may not be in a bad mood, my body language might be perceived as such. I don't have to walk around smiling like a Cheshire cat but I will definitely have a pleasant expression on my face.

I really enjoyed this book. There were so many aspects that I’d never known about or just thought of. After reading the sample, I told my cousin about it, and it’s our brand-new tiny book clubs first book.-Charlene

I'm always fascinated by these types of books. I like that this book addresses the issue of Black women who live in Europe/America/Canada or any other society of high populous of Caucasian and want to date, what predominates in that society. However, in such societies such individuals may not be perceived as high valued, potential partner and the relationship may come under a lot of pressure behind the scene don't under estimate the influence parents/elders there is more toleration for Asians because of their appearance in relation to the Caucasian and perceived value. That not to say they don't like you, they do your just not the right material for their son..Grow you own hair naturally if you have Afro hair,there are youtube video on this, if you don't accept yourself first how can you expect others to this? If short be like Grace Joan she dating an aristocrat. Grooming is essential, so is being well placed on the social ladder, having good etiquette skills, invest in your education always be learning how to spend money on the right things. In this book the Asian is more monetary successful,note that in this book the Asian female in the had her own flat which her father brought her and was generating an income, in all honesty how many Black women have this level of support? They are more likely to be getting into debt, or having a low paying job to make end meet if they are at college. What subjects are black women choosing? Asian tend to do better academically picking subjects where there is a higher proportion of successful Caucasian males or mates in general it a game of numbers.If they do not secure someone in college, university then they will at work or social life. They can afford to splash out on their social life because they have a higher income. If they are not academically inclined then, they are business inclined, they may start off being a cleaner but end-up running a cleaning agency in a few short years, similarly being a Beauty therapist but end up being a aesthetic practitioner with several salons. Even if they are not business minded, academic they make interesting partners, invest in their relationship and invest in their children heard of the Tiger Mother? These women give their children a head start in life. All this is just an opinion, take with a pinch of salt. However, I do recommend you date, despite your preferences other races in these now multicultural societies do you like being marginalised?Many men date blonds but end up with brunettes that gorgeous Caucasian guy may turn out to be a misogynist or a narcissist.There are women who suffer in silence having lost all confidence, other who have, had to involve police to escape from a wife beater. You may with the aid of this book meet great person, but be careful what you wish for that if they are professional successful,the type of partner Asian are after, they will be more traditional minded regarding roles,the doting husband will have less time for you, and you may end up living a very lonely monotonous existence despite the house, holidays, car, latest mobile phone. You will be required to take, responsibility for the household, and child care that if you have children, even if you are professional yourself. That why there is such a high divorce rate among Caucasian professionals/non professional women in such relationships, they did not bargain for this, Asian women have been socialised to accept this arrangement, and make their own life they have a more business like attitude when it comes to marriage. If you are a Black woman looking for someone warm and open minded from the discussed community of men Irish, Dutch, Norwegians, Germans,Swedish, Scottish,Welsh, New Zealanders, those from the African continent, Jamaica, English,and liberal or modern orthodox Jews the latter more tricky the religious aspect but they are wonderful people. I'm sure there are many others even the exception to the rule with all men, you do not know what happening behind closed doors so stay safe, don't be blinded by your desire.I recommend you purchase "Get the Guy" by Matthew Hussey, he has some wonderful retreats so get saving or get promoted "Nice Girls Don't Get The Corner Office: 101 unconscious mistakes women"by Lois P. Frankel. .

Very good and eye opening tips which I have already started putting in to practice.

Fabulous. Wish I read this 7 years ago. The website needs reviving. Seriously. She’s an incredibly switched on woman 👏👏

This was good and informative read. I'm glad I finally took the leap and bought it. I am like the author was; believing that a guy will come because my first guy did. I didn't realise or take into account the type of school I went to and the friends I had were a factor. So here is to me mKing a change. Thank you!

Very interesting read.