The Heart of Dominance: a guide to practicing consensual dominance

My wife has been asking me to dominate her for years. I grew from being very uncomfortable with it to being comfortable spanking her and doing a few other things, but it was still just because she wanted me to, and I always had this belief that I should be like the Fifty Shades guy or some other stereotype, and I always felt like I was failing to measure up. In reading this book, I gave myself permission to be myself, and I’m starting to tap into my own authentic dominant desires. Serendipitously, they happen to match incredibly well with my wife’s, and now I’m dominating her in a way that’s wild and fulfilling for both of us. Hot damn.

Highly recommend this book. I have read 7 or 8 references on BDSM bottoming, topping,, etiquette and 'training' over the years. This is by FAR the most reasonable presentation of how to discuss Dominance with your partner and to build a useful vocabulary so that you can have an adult, measured conversation. Also has essential advice on how to avoid the pit falls of romanticized dominance and abusive dominanceI recommend this as reading for anyone who is interested in either side of the dominance power exchange. New submissives will find this a primer on how to get their needs met while curtailing a lot of BS from bad doms. Dominants will find this a way to keep dewy eyed new submissives from wrecking anyone's life with false expectations. Dominant can ensures their needs are met as well as the submissives through the clearly outlined communication steps.

This book is about consensual D/S (I don't do the "S" in lowercase). I appreciate the emphasis on establishing and maintaining connection through constant communication. Fulmen, himself encourages readers to look at Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication. I've read, and continue to recommend The Loving Dominant. However, The Heart of Dominance is a more contemporary offering and more inclusive of diverse populations that comprise the kink community. After laying down some ground work for the reader to consider and work through, the author elaborates on six flavors of D/S and provides examples of how to explore each flavor. He notes that most folk in D/S relationships work with more than just one flavor. Fulmen has a wonderful writing voice, and interjects humor, making this a truly enjoyable read on top of being extremely informative. Honestly I feel that this should be mandatory reading for people considering or already in D/S relationships.

I've learned a bit about D/s over the last couple of years of exploring. This book seems to gather a lot of what I've learned together in one place and nicely ties the pieces together. If you are an ethical person looking to explore D/s, I would consider this a great resource.

This is a very well thought-out and well written book on the elements of healthy Dominant/submissive relationships. The authors approach to D/s is logical and clear, even if one does not agree with each and every element. His writing style is clean and the book is an easy read. I highly recommend this book both to people who are considering exploring D/s relationships and to those who have been in them for quite a while. For the latter group, it may well give you new insight into what you are experiencing. And, note, this is a GREAT book for submissives to read.

I liked the way he looked at dominance from so many standpoints. The book is valuable to anyone interested in D/s on either side of the slash.

I read this to my Daddy, we have been married for a decade, in a D/s relationship for a few years now officially (We had the dynamic, we just have whittled it down to our preferences) and just so happen to stumble upon this book. What a revelation, we could relate...we could understand...we learned things! There is nothing better than to serve , and in sharing this together we felt we were honoring both our roles. Thanks and Meow.

A good primer into dominance. This book provides a great understanding of the fundamentals of dominance. It clears up a lot of the fantasy of porn dominance and provides a practical application of the principals and mind-sets of real-life consentual dominant play. I highly recommend this book.

Great book for those who are interested in practicing dominance. But also those who are interested in being dominated. Would definitely recommend. Plus so great practical tips.

Anton Fulmen hat meiner Meinung nach die besten Bücher zum Thema D/s geschrieben. Super für Einsteiger geeignet. Ich habe unfassbar viel aus dem Buch, wie auch der Fortsetzung mitnehmen können. Auch, wenn sich die Bücher an D-Types richten, sind sie für s-Types nicht weniger wertvoll.Klare Empfehlung für alle, die dem Englischen halbwegs mächtig sind.

This book is a must-read if you are curious about playing with D/s dynamic, it is not just another list of rules and commands, it really does go to the heart of dominance, as it promises, which is the most intense and fulfilling intimacy.

Gute Übersicht für alle die sich noch nie damit beschäftigt haben. Zeitgleich gibt es Ratschläge Und tiefere Einsicht sowie Verständnis.