The One: A Realistic Guide to Choosing Your Soul Mate

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The success or failure of your relationship is directly tied to your ability to select the person with the right characteristics. So determine the characteristics ahead of time and do not settle for Mr. Right now. This author stressed compatibility on three levels: relational, character and spiritual. Spiritual is not enough, you need chemistry. Your main aim is to connect with your mate in all three areas. Trust your gut, your friends and family. Don’t spiritualize this process (God told me …). God is concerned about your romantic interests but he gave you the ability to choose so choose wisely.This book is a wonderful tool to assist in the dating process. It addresses some myths about dating and marriage that may cause you to think you have a mismatch which was good to know. To be successful you must be in a target rich environment and you must be willing to expand your friendship base and adjust your approach to dating where necessary. This book was very practical and easy to follow.

I purchased "The One: A realistic Guide to Choosing Your Soul Mate," for my signifcant other at her request. She had borrowed a copy from a friend and decided that she needed her own copy as what she was learning applied directly to things she could do to improve her life. Though I have not yet read the book myself, I have had enough passages reas to me to realize that this book has the power to truly influence and perhaps changes one's life for the better.My friend and I have both gone through divorces that have impacted us in many ways. We found each other and wish to build upon what we have discovered about ourselves and each other. This book provides some clear ways to rediscover a self that may be surpressed, that needs uplifting and inspiring. I would recommend it to anyone feeling a need to reconnect with self and others.

This book really blessed me. I felt a sense of closure from my recent break-up. It made me come to the realisation that my prayer should not be to find "The One" but to pray for wisdom in making the correct decision when choosing the one I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Although I wish the authors had used Scriptures from the Bible more.. overall the book was helpful in many realistic ways. I felt as though the authors were straightforward with absolutely no sugar coating when it comes to dating.

The book took longer than I anticipated to come, but I was not in a hurry. Once I received it I was satisfied with the condition. The book look like new.

Great book on relationships for readers of ANY age. It's never too early or too late to get it right. Thank you Adams and Young for this extremely insightful and life-changing read!

A pretty straightforward book on the subject of dating and what to look for in a potential spouse. Although the book is dated (no pun intended) in a few parts, the overall message is one many in the Christian singles world would benefit from reading today.The book is full of practical advice and common sense that seems so absent from many single Christians today. Because I didn't learn many new things, I won't give it a 5-star rating but that doesn't mean I wouldn't recommend it to people, especially to those in the "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" clan.One thing that the authors said that really resonated with me was their definition of modern courtship -"Within the last decade, there has been a proliferation of Christian books claiming to be the one, true way to find your marriage partner. A common theme throughout is the idea that any form of modern dating is anti-Christian and unspiritual at best. For sake of simplicity, we will refer to this as the 'courtship model.' In general, this model claims that God's way (or the biblical way) to find a mate is through a method of courtship where, through God's prompting, you identify a potential marriage partner before you ever spend intimate, one-on-one time with that person. Somehow through God's direction, you come up with some vague assurance that this is The One before developing any kind of intimate friendship. You approach this person (and his or her parents) with your intentions to commit yourself to him or hear with a view toward marriage! Does that sound a little scary?"I have seen this dangerous approach advocated repeatedly thanks to the modern courtship movement. Those who know me might find my agreement with this statement a bit odd, as I am one that believes God continues to speak and guide people today, including in the area of romance. I know of a few couples where God was directly involved with bringing them together in some rather supernatural ways. So I am not against involving God or even being open to supernatural signs in the process. But I have been seeing a lot of people mistaking desires and wishes and the infatuation with God telling them they've found someone they should marry. They get a crush and they rush. Rush! Rush! Rush! They over-spiritualize their infatuations and attractions to someone and as a result, often blind themselves to things that should give them pause. Thus, they become prone to making some disastrous decisions.This book, along with Gary Thomas' "The Sacred Search" and Thomas Umstattd Jr.'s, "Courtship in Crisis" offers a better way to approach making one of the most significant decisions one will make in their lifetime.