Just F*ck Me! - What Women Want Men to Know About Taking Control in the Bedroom (A Guide for Couples) - Revised Edition

Bought this as a funny gift for my buddy's bachelor party. Found out he and his wife love the book.

Like me, you were probably just innocently walking along or surfing when this the title of this book reached out and grabbed your curiosity and wouldn't let go. Since the book's title has your undivided attention, just what is the book about? It's a self-help guide/instruction book/sex manual written by a woman, a feminist no less, who obviously knows what she is talking about. How can a San Francisco feminist write a book like this one? As she says, "This is not a relationship advice book. This is a guide to pleasing your woman in bed." It's her experience that one of the reasons "why women like men who are more assertive in the bedroom" is feminism. "How could something that inspires women to be strong and in control be the same reason why she wants her partner to be an alpha male in the bedroom?" These are the questions that the author answers in this fascinating 113-page book. It's impossible to answer most of the questions brought up in this tome in this short review, but the term "alpha male" does need to be defined. "Simply put, an alpha male is a man's man. Someone who exudes masculinity. Someone who looks like they'd be a challenger in a fight. A man who is all man, inside and out." This is the guy most women and feminists, according to the author, fantasize about being swept off their feet and ravished in the bedroom--but only the bedroom, not the rest of the relationship. "Similarly, this advice is not for new couples or for causal sexual encounters. There needs to be a trusting bond" between the partners. This book "is NOT" about "BDSM techniques." The woman needs "to make sure your man understands perfectly that this is not a reflection of his masculinity...This is a sexual desire YOU have, that HE can fulfill for you." Since American men are taught throughout life not to be "alpha males" the book is filled with techniques for the woman to teach, train her man to be a nice "alpha male." She successfully explains how to go about this seemingly paradoxical task and even if the various techniques and experiments fail, at least both partners are going to have a lot of fun failing. Following this advice is definitely going to perk up the couple's sex lives. One word of caution for men reading and attempting to follow this guidebook, communication both verbal and otherwise before, during and after rough sex is extremely important. And while that advice sounds like one of the first commandments (along with consenting adults only) of BDSM practitioners, the author stresses that this book is not an introduction to BDSM even with the introduction of some fetish games, safe words and role-playing. She stresses that all these techniques are perfectly normal and mainstream. The feminist author's tone sounds very much like the attitude of a dominatrix, but she is probably just trying to keep her beta male in an alpha role only in the bedroom. But males need to be very, very careful with whom and how they play this alpha male role as defined by this feminist author. If the rough sex and role-playing gets carried too far, the full weight of the sexual abuse laws can come crashing down on the man, and only the man. Becoming an alpha male in the bedroom can easily cause legal problems for the beta male trying to be the alpha male in bed to please his mate, but then having to return to the beta male in the rest of the relationship. An upset lover can easily go after her male fantasy provider legally. The man might be better off training in the real BDSM culture scene learning to be or act the role of an alpha male? In that scene written contracts are often used to avoid legal problems. It might be wise to have such a written agreement in this play between normal, so called mainstream straight lovers. That said this is definitely an eye-opening page-turner. The attention grabbing title is only there for the pure shock value for this rather straight bedroom guide for pleasing the female part of a heterosexual couple.

Short book for the price, but interesting concepts. I like the layout of Intro, Men's, Women's, and Couples. I found my self shaking my head in agreement with lots of what Kingsley said. I especially liked how she reiterated that what happens in the bedroom doesn't translate to how you want to be treated outside the bedroom in "real life". That is one of my biggest fears/frustrations with asking for my husband to be more assertive in the bedroom. I also liked that she said you have to be solid in your relationship to work on your sex connection. I am very happy in my relationship, so that's not an issue for me, but for many friends, I can see how they are so focused on sex, they look past things in their relationships that shouldn't be overlooked.Helped to open up communication between us. As a society, we are pushed to do/say the opposite of what the book says, so it can be hard to bridge the topic.Also a very quick read - just an hour or two - not a big commitment. I liked the action points, as well, especially for me, as a woman, to how I can prompt my husband. The section on dirty talk, I also found very insightful and loved the recommendations of starting in writing with sexy texts and emails, building up through the phone, before trying it in person. IT can be very intimidating for someone who doesn't do that at all to jump right in, and that fit my introverted style much better.Overall, good content, and I am sure I will be rereading it again.

I got this book and read it and was very happy with it. Most sex advice books suck, they only tell you stuff that anyone who is in a committed relationship with good communication would know, they are written for teens because they are the only ones who would not know that advice. This book on the other hand tells you about what girls want but don't know how to ask for, and tells you how to slowly introduce some new, fun sexual activities to your relationship. The only detraction I can say about this book is it is very simple, now that may sound like a good thing but I would have liked to explore some more of the psychological aspects of the sex described in the book and why we have lost this in our modern relationships because of the ways we are raised, but I like to explore things deeply. Over all though it was a good short read that actually did help my sex life a little. I would place this book right between "sex advice" and "kinky" and I would recommend this book to couples that are happy with their sex life but maybe feel like they are stuck in a rut and want a little more out of their bedroom activities.

I was a little hesitant to buy this book, but I ended up reading the entire thing in less than 24 hours and if I could give it 10 stars, I would. Eve Kingsley says what every woman wishes she could and she does it in a way that is humorous, intelligent, spot on, and yet non-threatening. She provides all the right cautions, but at the same time helps you to understand how to push your sexual boundaries - all with the aim of creating a strong, healthy relationship, both inside and outside of "the bedroom". I HIGHLY recommend this book to any one in a committed relationship or who wants to "study up" for a future committed relationship. Buy it! Worth every penny and then some!

big writing, small pages, not a lot in it to be fair. Just a bit of advice that should be known already, no eureka stuff. Read it in half hour. Half price paid is too much in my opinion.

Nice to confirm that you ladies like this.Would be handy if a few women actually were able to read this and open up to their other half we sometimes need to know we've got it right.Also I won't be taking the piss like I uses to.

A good read

A short but concise guide for men and women in relationships where the women are looking for a bit more "alpha" in their man in the bedroom. I'm in my mid-twenties but rather inexperienced. However, whilst I knew something was missing for me I thought me fantasising over alpha male qualities was me being odd. However, it seems I'm not the only woman in the world feeling this way. Woohoo! Absolutely brilliant and well worth the read. Its not a big book either. I read it within a few hours. Now all I have to do is get my boyfriend to read it.....

This is a fantastic book!Concise and to the point with very pratical tips on how to improve your love making and provides detailed explainations as to why women just some want to f**k instead of make love.A Must read book to add to your collection.