Done With The Crying: Help and Healing for Mothers of Estranged Adult Children Paperback – May 3, 2016

COMPLETE THERAPY COURSE IN A BOOKIf this book cost $100 it would still be a FANTASTIC bargain. It contains a complete therapy course you can do at home to help process the myriad painful thoughts and emotions suffered by estranged parents. It has an interactive format. Throughout there are helpful questions posed for self-reflection and introspection, along with spaces for the reader to write in their own responses. The author, Sheri McGregor (hereafter to be called "Ms. Sheri"), makes a sincere effort to encourage the reader to get the most benefit from the book by participating in this valuable interaction.Ms. Sheri is the exact perfect person to write this book because, in addition to her background in psychology and counseling, she also has personal experience with estrangement. Additionally, she has put an enormous amount of research into this book, and she covers the subject in impressive depth and breadth.The tone Ms. Sheri takes throughout the book shows clear respect for the reader -- she knows/trusts/believes that you are a loving parent who has always tried to do your best! She never TELLS you how you should act or what you should feel. She lays out diverse examples of ways that other parents have handled situations in order to help the reader "try on" ideas and see what might fit for themselves. She gently encourages the reader to try small steps, always with the assurance that you are free to change your mind and go in a different direction. She writes, "I'm a firm believer that we each know what's really best for us." Gotta say, I love the way she debunks the "experts" who so freely dish out advice -- that was reassuring.This book came into my hands when I really needed it. I set myself the goal to read it cover-to-cover and to answer the questions. It's been a hard journey, but a very worthwhile one, taken every step of the way with Ms. Sheri walking beside me as a supportive, caring friend. I wish to express my deep gratitude to her for all of the hard work she put into this most valuable and helpful book. THANK YOU Sheri McGregor!!!

I have an adult daughter who has rejected her mother, me. I honestly knew I was going to die of a broken heart. Sheri McGregor’s book “Done With The Crying,” helped me process the insanity of my daughter’s actions and the loss of my five grandchildren. This is the ninth year that I have been shunned in favor of her wealthy, famous father who agrees with her philosophy. Anything to punish me. I found my way to health and healing. I was able to find this happy path after using Sheri’s book as a workbook. I kept a journal as I worked through the book. It was therapeutic but sad. I no longer read my journal but when I get in a funk, I read this book and my scriptures of hope. I was a good, maybe even great, mother. I know that in my heart and Sheri has encouraged my positive steps throughout her well-thought out and outlined book. I have bought many copies and given them to people who I have met with similar heartaches. It’s helped others. Let it help you. Even if you suffered a trauma, were in the throes of alcoholism, drug addiction or depression, you can forgive yourself, acknowledge your mistakes and move forward with the skill of Sheri McGregor. She has lived what we are living. Her wisdom has kept me alive for nine years longer than I expected to survive. She understood when my shame prevented me from sharing with friends and family. My copy looks like a well-used college textbook or my scriptures. Cross referenced and thin from wear.Remember they have the right to make choices but not to blame us unjustly. We can’t stop them, but we can keep them from eating away at our souls. Sheri is a brave, strong leader. I’m grateful I found her book and newsletters. You will not regret this purchase.

Good book at a difficult time. I have recommended this book to many people who are experiencing a hard time.

Helpful book.

At the risk of sounding overly dramatic, I believe the the book Done With the Crying by Sheri McGregor truly saved my life. Becoming estranged from a child-- under any circumstances is one of the most painful feelings a parent can experience. My now 21 year old(who has been out of my life for several years) son is a victim of parental alienation through the actions of my ex-husband/ his father. He is brainwashed. The best analogy for his condition-- as far as I can understand --is that he is member of a cult of two: my ex and his wife. I have suffered to point where I believed that my resources for coping with pain exceeded my pain-coping resources. It was a dark space and I couldn't find my way out. Then by pure luck, I stumbled upon the ultimate pain-coping resource: Sheri's Website and Done With the Crying. It felt as if she had been in my house and in my head as she identified every possible thought/feeling/pain that a mother could experience in losing a child. She could articulate my thoughts so well for only one reason: she has been in my shoes. Not only does her book offer helpful insights into the process and feelings of losing a child, but also provides a template for healing. The book has many "thought/feeling" exercises which helped me to understand the process of healing.. It forced me to examine my feelings, thoughts, and behaviors. Most of all, the book gave me the hope that I can and will survive and thrive regardless of the future outcome of the relationship with my son. I carry the book with me everywhere(and I just travelled around the world); it was always on me in case my mind wandered off to the dark side or self pity set in. I would read 2 or 3 pages and it was a healing balm. I am hoping that the audio/downloadable version is forthcoming. It is my bible for hope. Sheri has empowered my positive thinking through her sharing her story along with powerful suggestions. It is a must read (and carry) with you book if you have an issues with loss of an adult child/children relationship. I am deeply grateful for her insight, wisdom and strength which will undoubtedly help thousands of mothers who are suffering as deeply as I.Thank you Sheri.