Boundary Power: How I Treat You, How I Let You Treat Me, How I Treat Myself

I like it because it's interactive. It's an easy read. When one is working through emotional topics that makes it hard enough. This being so interactive makes the process easier. I think this book is good for knowledge and discernment purposes. If you have been learning about boundaries and are practicing them there probably is some to learn in this But it's very foundational. The writer refers to Henry Cloud's books in it. If you aren't familiar with Henry Cloud I highly recommend his books, Especially his Boundaries Book. One thing I like about this book is the end chapter discusses processing the loss and grief. It also has workbook pages to walk through that process.

I've bought this book for years - giving it to clients in my counseling practice. It's an excellent book that can be highly illuminating to those who need to control their relationships with others. The three cover statements tell the whole story, especially the third - How I Treat Myself Myself. Many of those with boundary issues (or inability to say no, to act according to what they really want, not what others want of them) feel guilty when trying to fulfill their own happiness or simply trying to create some private space. This workbook really works for those who read it, process it, and work the exercises. It provides important support for anyone who has suffered abuse of any kind, for shy or intimidated individuals, for anyone who has been bullied, threatened, or pushed around, for anyone who is made to feel 'different' or lesser than others. If even one chapter helps a person to feel stronger, more confident, able to say no, or to develop a sense of protected space, it is worth it. Excellent - a great aid for anyone who counsels or helps others in any way.

I've read a lot of boundary books, and this is the best so far. It IS a workbook, and I didn't realize that when I sent for it, but that encouraged me to underline and work some of the questions. It's good because the ideas are stated very simply, and also powerfully --- radically. There is some God stuff, but that didn't interfere with my use of the book -- you can skip that if it's not your thing.I liked the radical ideas. My favorite, and I'm using it daily now, I realize, is that people are not allowed to say anything they want to me. That is, yell vehement leftwing political views with lots of slander and disapproval in them that they KNOW I don't like or agree with. Darn, I always thought people were allowed to say whatever they want to me, freedom of speech, freedom of open discussion of ideas. Now I realize it's plain abuse because they know I'll let them do it, and by God, it's going to stop right here.

"Boundary Power" is a workbook that can be used alone or in a group. I used "Boundary Power" in therapy. The exercisesOpened up many insights into my own behavior. I became aware of how my reactions caused the negative way I was treated.This workbook took me through three phases of my life; my childhood, my adulthood, raising children, second marriageAnd aging..I was helped to see what boundaries could do for me. I saw that I had very few boundaries in my life. One of the most importantInsights I had was to realize that the other person is not me! That sounds pretty obvious. What that means is that I expectedThe other person to act like me. Not true. "You are not me". And " i am not you ". And, that's ok!There are many more important lessons to be learned by using this workbook, "Boundary Power". I think it is worth the time andEffort if you have issues with boundaries.

This is a great book to understand where you might have boundary issues. I think it could be supplemented by codependent no more because they are both boundary issues. I dont love the opinion of the author at times seems stated more as a fact but, if you take what's useful you can leave the rest and its helped me understand where some of my boundary issues were with past partners and family.

Good book on setting boundaries with people who emotionally abuse you. The material is a bit dated now, but the teaching is still useful. One thing the book does not adequately cover is when you face certain folks with bona fide personality disorders you cannot really build enough boundaries, and you must flee and escape before the one with the personality disorder eats your soul, takes your energy, and pounds your esteem into the ground, for which it will take a long time to recover. Consider the boundaries you need to set from this book workable with rational people, but for the really way out there ones who are not rational, boundaries here are only temporary at best; you must flee before they damage you.

This is such a great concept of journaling and actually DOING the book while READING the book. Be real with yourself and you will see where boundaries need to be placed and grow.

I cannot recommend this workbook enough. I learned so much about myself and those around me. This workbook tapped right into my childhood upbringing and why I am the way I am today. It's definitely an eye-opener.