The Christian's Guide to No Contact: How to End Your Relationships With Narcissistic, Psychopathic, and Abusive Family and Friends, and Still be a Good Christian

I haven’t finished the book yet but this book is so so helpful for dealing with narcissist and abusive behavior.I’ve seen a lot of reviews saying this book is not Christian and that the authors writing is very hateful. Honestly I think everyone has the right to their own opinion, but I have not felt that the writing is hateful at all. The book is very blunt, but when dealing with narcissistic people, that’s what you need to hear. Hearing the honest truth has been what has helped me set healthy boundaries with my narcissistic parent. If you were in denial about your situation, this may not be the best book to read. I personally have done a lot of research on how a narcissist behaves and so I do understand the book is just blunt. She writes the honest truth about how these people typically behave.The other thing I saw being controversial was the term flying monkeys. This isn’t just a term that the author made up, this is a widely used term when talking about narcissist. So again, maybe people just don’t know, but this also didn’t bother me because I knew this.I do understand that some of the verses may not correlate with what the author is talking about 100%. but i do not believe it was intentional to get “revenge” as I saw another reviewer write.The only thing that did bother me at first was referring to these people as evil. I dont believe all these people are evil at the core, but that type of behavior is not from God !!!! I think that’s what is most important to know.Conclusion- dealing with these types of people is very difficult and most the time when you’re stuck in the pattern, the blunt honest truth is what you need to hear to get out of the abuse. Cutting someone off because they have abusive behavior is OKAY !!! Saw another reviewer say that giving the silent treatment to them isn’t right. But God does not want us to sit in abuse !!!!! Not speaking to someone with these types of behaviors when you have tried to mend the relationship is not the silent treatment !!Definitely pray for discernment if you plan to read this. In the text and in your relationship to know the truth.

I went no contact with my parents about 10 months ago . I had already gone low contact with my evil genius sister about 10 years ago. It's been really hard especially as my parents continue to call and call and call. They think they are saints. After 55 years of neglect and abuse (just me, I'm the scapegoat) they suddenly decided I was the favorite (sort of). Actually, they just stopped being openly hostile to me, the favoritism with other siblings continued. I played along for years, but it was obviously a joke. Or so I thought. Then 10 months ago their true colors showed. They were setting me up to care for my wicked mother when my father dies. I'm the only offspring who works full time and is single. So, of course they see me as the one who is available(?). Actually, I think she picked me as I'm the only one she can continue to abuse till she kills me. It was such a shock that I couldn't face them any more. They had been plotting this for years! Boy, I wish I had found this book a while back. I've been struggling with so much guilt and panic attacks every time they call and leave a message. I finally blocked them on my phone. This book addresses all my concerns and puts such clear perspectives on all the issues. Every time I start a new chapter I'm thinking" yes, yes that too". This book has really helped with my peace of mind. Thank you so much.

scripture references all along the way. Even though it’s a topic that is difficult and is even more difficult to carry out, the writer is writing from her personal experience and handles the topic expertly. It has already provided such great insight, and comfort from the scriptures. I am a Born Again Christian and have been in Christian counseling, this book has been so beneficial to me already.

I'm not very far in, but appears to be generally good, except for one thing that really bothers me. She refers to the people you need to cut off as evil, and refers to scriptures that use that word and wicked. It's absolutely not necessary to think of the people you need to cut off as evil. They may just have characteristics that you can't deal with. It may even be a passing problem on their end or yours. I'm sure some people can accurately be called evil, but I don't think most are. I see the characterization of them as evil as an attempt to justify cutting them off....it's not necessary: you don't need to justify it. You can just call them unhealthy.

I stumbled across this book out at the library and renewed it 3 times. I didn't want to let go of it! I liked it so well that I came to Amazon to get the book so I could refer to it over and over again. If you've been through a tough childhood with narcisstic parents or family members then you NEED this book. If your misery has carried into your adulthood, then you NEED this book. I went through years of counseling because of the damage my parents did to me and I so wish I'd had this book years ago. This book is worth every cent. I walked away from my narcisstic, dysfunctional family in October 2001 and never looked back. How I wish I'd had this book to help me through the past 21 years. Even if you haven't gone through the "divorcing" family members, you might want to read this book in order to understand what others like me have decided to do in order to keep their sanity. Buy the book - you won't regret it.

This book is one of the best books for Christians!! Amazing and unique. The way she writes and explains it all is so healing, truly a big relief for all people in that situation. Renee Pittelli explains it all step by step in alignment with what the Bible says and that makes this book so precious. I recommend this book to all Christian believers, it will remove all feelings of guilt forever. This book will give you a new understanding, great strength and courage for your path. I am so grateful for this book, Thanks !

I found this book extremely supportive and could not have discovered it at a better time. I read it over my first truly no contact Christmas having dealt with years of abusive family and then intense hoovering and flying monkeys for the last 12 months when I tried to break free for my own wellbeing. For anyone wrestling with their own faith and the need to be no contact this is the book for you. Inner peace really can be restored alongside the outer peace.

Thank you for publishing this book.

Amazing book even for someone who is not a Christian. Many chapters hardly mention religion at all and anyone can easily read them. I am not interested in the scriptures and simply passed anything that was related to that. The author went NC with her family and has a lot of hands-on experience! She knows exactly what you are going through and giving wonderful advices on how to cope with it. Highly recommended! Probably the best I have read on the subject!

I found this book very inspiring, very encouraging and very well thought out. So much insight and wisdom...she explained a very painful subject with a lot of sensitivity, love and compassion...cannot give enough praise! I would highly recommend this book....